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I Am The Halloween Grinch

October 31 is looming. A date that fills me with dread, consternation and cultural awkwardness.

2012 will be my 12th Halloween in the USA and the fifth or sixth “celebrated” since having kids. You’d think by now I’d be cool with it but every September, just as soon as the kids go back to school, it’s all about Halloween every which way you turn and I just don’t dig it. Here’s why:

Costume Craziness

Halloween, otherwise known as All Hallows Eve, the night before All Saints Day or Toussaint, has many origins but it’s mostly about getting spooked out by ghosts, ghouls and witches. So I can understand dressing up in white sheets, pointy hats and broomsticks, and skeletons but I do not get costumes that have nothing to do with Halloween. Cowboys, princesses, ninjas, Batman, Darth Vader, Minnie Mouse, Thomas the Tank – none of these are appropriately themed in my book. Any why are we OK with spending $25 or more every year purchasing brand new costumes for each kid from the growing numbers of retailers willing to take our money? Not being crafty myself, making or sewing a costume for my kids is rarely an option. So, the weeks running up to October 31 are usually spent trying to gently persuade my kids to either re-wear the costumes bought last year (which have not been worn since) or convincing them to make their own designs.

And while we are on the topic, I have never and will never understand adults dressing up at Halloween. Especially at the office! I do not want to be in meetings with a French Maid, Spider Man, a fireman, Cinderella  Frankenstein or any other caped crusaders. I do not want to sit in a cube across from these characters, bump into them in the corridors, kitchen or bathrooms. I’m all for fun at work but grown-ups in costumes, I just don’t get.

Candy Craziness

I have always been a candy nazi, strictly limiting the volume and kinds of candy my kids consume. In the days prior to Halloween, I totally have to psyche myself into being cool with the fact that they will be consuming huge piles of the nasty sugary stuff. I’m not a total spoil-sport, I let them go to town on Halloween. But it makes my skin crawl and sets off every parenting alert signal. And after the sugar high, the inevitable crash, followed by the awesome moods the following morning. Ugh! What I don’t understand is why does there have to be so much candy? And not just on October 31 but in the days and weeks either side?

Extended Celebrations

Halloween is technically just one evening, so why the parties 7-14 days before? Why decorate houses as soon as October hits? Why is there so much Halloween themed junk on the shelves of stores? Halloween cookies, recipes, crafts? Why are there Halloween Hallmark cards? Who sends these things? Happy Day of the Dead? Gee, thanks for thinking of me. It’s all overkill.

There are many American celebrations and seasons that this Brit wholeheartedly embraces, particularly in the fall when pumpkins are plentiful and the foliage breath-taking. And, of course, I want my kids to experience all that is fun and cultural and seasonal.

But, when it comes to Halloween, I admit I am a Grinch. So bah humbug.

And pass the candy.

 

Samantha McGarry is a working Mom, juggling parenthood, career and being an-expat one crazy day at a time - with a smile on her face. You can read more of her blogs over at Keeping the Glass Half Full.

Mark Cain

5:33 pm on Monday, October 29, 2012

You can always move back to where you once left.

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Samantha McGarry

5:38 pm on Monday, October 29, 2012

Nah, they probably celebrate Halloween in excess there now too :)

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Kira Gagarin

6:53 pm on Monday, October 29, 2012

I loooooove Halloweeeeeeen. I always made my own costumes as a kid (immigrant!). Buying new costumes was just not an option so there was no "convincing" necessary. Obviously if given that option any child would purchase a new one. As to dressing up as an adult, why not? Its not particularly my thing but I certainly don't mind if other people want to walk around in costume! At least there are no Halloween Carols for 2+ months :)

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Beth Follett Last

12:10 pm on Tuesday, October 30, 2012

Yes - Kira touched on this... but if it wasn't for an overdose of Halloween... Retailers (radio stations, etc) might start even earlier with Christmas stuff. :) I love Christmas but I say every holiday should be capped at one month of decorations/celebration/etc.

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Kira Gagarin

6:28 pm on Tuesday, October 30, 2012

Just her opinion. She seems pretty cheery except for an unfounded hate of the best holiday ever! Maybe we can turn her around ;)

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Samantha McGarry

6:28 pm on Tuesday, October 30, 2012

I'm actually all for fun :) My opinions don't stop me ensuring my kids thoroughly enjoying Halloween. And we'll be trick or treating tomorrow night and they'll be eating candy. It's the excess I have an issue with. $8 billion has been spent on Halloween this year, says the National Retail Federation.

David Pasco

8:10 pm on Tuesday, October 30, 2012

Out of curiosity, do you have similar disdain for Christmas, and Easter?

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Cait D.

9:45 pm on Tuesday, October 30, 2012

Wow. I adore Halloween. It leads up to very important day, All Saints day. This is a great time to enjoy dressing up (kids AND adults too!). It's a time to walk around your neighborhood and meet people or play hostess giving out candy. I bought Halloween candy in walmart next to the fake Christmas trees. So? Every holiday is too commercialized, just don't feed into it. Enjoy your kids happiness. Halloween here is better than Ireland. I lived there too.

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Cait D.

9:45 pm on Tuesday, October 30, 2012

And about the 8billion spent on halloween? What about the $$ spent for a silly presidential campaign? Now THAT'S a waste.

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Cait D.

11:54 pm on Tuesday, October 30, 2012

One more point and I will be done:
National retail federation states that a RECORD 170 million people are celebrating Halloween this year spending an average if $40.
OBAMAS vacation to Hawaii for 4 people is $1,000,000
Per person. So please don't criticize holiday spending, since WE the TAXPAYERS pay for their trips. Done.

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Ken Rice

4:27 pm on Wednesday, October 31, 2012

So you managed to put a political statement in the middle of a discussion on Halloween? I feel like we see enough political statements on so many other blog posts.

Jason Wichern

11:54 pm on Tuesday, October 30, 2012

Every holiday is overdone and overblown. Candy, gifts, decorations and parties... its too much. But I enjoy every one of them because its a day to step away from my normal boring life and experience something different. And without that excess? The only people hurt are the retailers... and when they hurt.....

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Emily Calderwood

7:47 am on Wednesday, October 31, 2012

I completely agree! Thank goodness someone else has my grinch tendencies! That may be something to do with a transplant from the UK 14 years ago. I have 'celebrated' just 6 years with my kids. As a child I never went trick or treating. I have developed a disturbing liking for Reeses Peanut Butter cups recently though!

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Danielle Horn

8:59 am on Wednesday, October 31, 2012

I'm a bit of a Halloween grinch today because I'll be treking to my mom's house in Worcester to hand out candy for her until she gets out of work. There are two reasons I'll be taking this shift: 1) my mother would never think of not handing out candy; she's happy to do it, and 2) in the past, houses that didn't hand out candy were egged. Those types of shenanigans make me grinch-like. :-)

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Chris L.

9:24 am on Wednesday, October 31, 2012

people spending $8 billion on Halloween means that money flows to people and companies...ie jobs.

look at the bigger picture sometimes. its not always really about fun and games. while i agree maybe the money could be spent on less frivolous things, but the fact is that its a positive sign that the money is being spent at all.

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Carol C

11:30 am on Wednesday, October 31, 2012

As a kid I throughly enjoyed Halloween. Walking around with friends and family. Being out in the dark and getting the candy; staying up late. Once I grew out of that I wanted nothing to do with the holiday except when asked to dress up at work or to hand out candy to the kids. After I had kids and they throughly began to enjoy the decorations and me dressing up - I had to do it for them. They are only this little once and mine are growing up too fast. A few more years and mine wont want anything to do with it. I love to make them happy and have a great time with them : ) Life is too short not too!

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John Q

11:30 am on Wednesday, October 31, 2012

yeah, and I bet you wear a ridiculous costume when you celebrate boxing day across the pond.... but...I think halloween is something many adults enjoy because we remember back to the experiences we had when we were kids. Perhaps not having those childhood experiences to 'fall' back on result in your being unable to identify with the 'spirit' of the holiday. Let me ask you this... do you enjoy Fourth of July??? :)

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Samantha McGarry

2:46 pm on Wednesday, October 31, 2012

As it happens, I can't think of any british holiday that includes dressing up. Maybe that's the whole problem here! On Boxing Day, we just sit around and drink tea! July Fourth is always interesting for me, I always feel a little out of place! But I do partake of the celebrations with friends, grateful that this is my host country.

TBH

11:30 am on Wednesday, October 31, 2012

Look at it this way... it is one of the few holidays left that is just about fun. Christmas is the height of excess and carries a lot of baggage, Easter has detached itself from the true meaning of the holiday and is just a celebration of spring, and Valentine's Day exists purely to guilt people into buying cards, candy and flowers. Halloween is all about letting your kids have fun dressing up and having fun...nothing wrong about that.

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Samantha McGarry

2:46 pm on Wednesday, October 31, 2012

Good point, and I'm all for fun. Esp for my kids. Just don't ask me to wear a costume!

Jimi

11:30 am on Wednesday, October 31, 2012

You could transpose many of your issues w/ Halloween to Christmas.

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Ben Jackson

2:46 pm on Wednesday, October 31, 2012

To be clear, I'd like to be in a meeting with a French Maid. :)

That said, I hear you. On the flip side, I remember the absolute mad, crazy joy that halloween brought to me. I remember the abandon with which I could allow my imagination to run free, to not be the every day me, but to be someone or something else - spooky or not. I take so much joy in seeing my own kiddo experience this that it's hard for me to not be all for it.

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Samantha McGarry

2:58 pm on Wednesday, October 31, 2012

I hear what you are saying - my daughter is super excited to be a yellow ninja tonight!! It's fun to see her anticipation. Have a happy Halloween!

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Mary MacDonald

4:41 pm on Wednesday, October 31, 2012

I for one, love Halloween! I drove by a house in Milford today with a fake bat that's flapping it's wings already, and I thought - that's great! It's a holiday that kids just love, and even adults get into, and it lets us all be kids again. I am happy we were all lucky enough with the weather to have tonight....so, no grinching here.

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Samantha McGarry

5:24 pm on Wednesday, October 31, 2012

Thanks to everyone that commented. Wishing you all a very happy Halloween!

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carl berke

6:02 pm on Thursday, November 1, 2012

Sam:
It is a goofy commercial venture. I certify that it has grown in popularity because people are now waiting for another wrong headed commercial venture of a religious nature called Xmas. There is just so much time to get those displays of crap out, so let us skip a real American holiday, called Thanksgiving, and go right for Black Friday. Afterall, in America, its not the sentiment, its the dollar. Welcome to the wondeful world of bullshit!

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