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For The Love of ... Laundry

This is going to sound warped and you are probably going to think I’m nuts or completely abandoning the mothership and womanhood and all that. But here goes:

I love doing the laundry.

Yup, you read that right. I love doing the laundry.

Sure, I complain about it like everyone else, but that’s just to give off the appearance of being harried and frustrated by the regularity and dullness and domesticity of those large, often pungent, sometimes sticky piles of clothing that are either strewn about or heaped up in dank corners. (Why do they never all make it into the hamper?)

The reality is that I actually relish – yes, that’s right – relish the process of converting the mess, wrinkles and smell into fragrant, smooth and orderly piles.

There’s also a certain OCD element in me that appreciates the anticipation of timing the laundry just right so that I can be one step ahead of someone being out of clean underpants. If I time it right, we can (hopefully) avoid the meltdowns when the batman jammies are not available or someone’s favorite T-shirt can’t be found. Or, heaven forbid, when there are only clean skirts or skorts instead of shorts or pants (guaranteed to incite whines and tears from my 5-year old tom boy.) Plus, during the summer months, there’s the extra thrill of ensuring that there’s always a regular supply of clean towels, swim suits and changes of clothes for two kids for camp.

I’ll often secretly inhale from a big of clean clothes, fresh from the drier. That smell, to me, is almost as pleasurable as the buzz I get from that first sip of coffee in the morning.

Next, I’ll turn on the TV and methodically take each laundered item and create piles. Socks, underpants, facecloths in one pile, everything else in the other. And then I’ll fastidiously fold each item and create more piles sorted by kid, by item (shorts in one pile, T-shirts in another). I often finger each item as I handle it, smoothing out the wrinkles and fondly remembering something entertaining or interesting about my son or daughter when last they wore it. As I inspect each item, I muse over how much they’ve grown, calculating how many more wears these pants might get before the eventual holes at the knees, or how many more Marmite/sardine stains her tops can withstand before they must be forced out of commission. I recall the source of each piece of clothing, which store or from whom it was handed down (thank heavens for hand-me-downs!) I think about the upcoming season and whether last Spring’s clothes will fit them come Fall. I hope so, because the hand-me-downs are running low….

Finally, in front of me, roughly eight orderly, uniform towers of neatly folded and sorted clean clothes. Then begins the process of putting them away, closet by closet, drawer by drawer, making sure that the rotation of yet-to-be-worn clothes takes place.

This complete, detailed and yes, maniacal, process happens at least once a week. It’s fantastic!

Woe betide he who messes with the process.

Actually, the truth is my husband willingly folds laundry. Except he folds it differently from me. Which causes this whole internal battle in me in which I have to talk myself into accepting that the folding is not being done my way. Gratefully accept the assistance. Get over myself, in general. It works most of the time, though I do admit to often checking in the kids’ closets and drawers after he’s done putting their clothes away and refolding and reorganizing stuff!

Any men reading this probably think I am a lunatic. Or maybe they recognize this behavior and witness it in their own homes. But, my fellow Moms, I bet I am not alone here. Maybe you are not as controlling as me about the laundry. Maybe you are. Maybe it’s some other aspect of household management?

Tell me …. do you enjoy doing the laundry as much as me?

 

Framingham resident Samantha McGarry is a working Mom, juggling life, kids and career one crazy day at a time - with a smile on her face. She blogs at Keeping the Glass Half Full.

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Danielle Horn

8:23 am on Saturday, September 29, 2012

I'm not sure if I love the laundry...but I have banned the men in my house from doing it, because they're vastly inferior and seem to have this biological trait that prevents them from actually folding and putting away the laundry once it's done! Also, there is such a sense of satisfaction from tackling a huge clean laundry pile and putting everything back in its correct order. :-)

Now, tell me: do you reorganize your dresser drawers on a regular basis? I tackle that project, thinking it's a great idea, and then immediately regret it as soon as I dump everything out in front of me.

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Samantha McGarry

4:41 pm on Saturday, September 29, 2012

Thanks for commenting Danielle. I organize my kids closets on a seasonal basis as there's always stuff which is outgrown or worn or just plain disgusting!

Jennifer

10:04 am on Saturday, September 29, 2012

I have a similar "Love/Hate" relationship with it. My husband is relegated to "Laundry Duty" each Saturday when I'm at work, but I"ll say that I spend at least an hour before leaving sorting the laundry into appropriate "piles" and he gets STRICT instructions before I leave on Water Temp, Type of Soap, Fabric Softener, etc. for each pile. No matter I still get frustrated when I get home and find that 2 of the 9 loads is done and it's folded all over my living room. I get frustrated because in my head I know the washer takes 45 minutes, the drier takes 1 hour and therefore timed correctly (like I do with my kitchen timer) ALL those piles would have been done before I made it home...but he's a little ADD so I forgive his lack of "timing" and resign myself to the idea that at least 2 of those piles got done and I can get the satisfaction of finishing the rest myself :)

But now that I read the article that 1/2 of couples in Norway who share domestic chores divorce maybe I should rethink letting him do that laundry at all! lol

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Samantha McGarry

4:41 pm on Saturday, September 29, 2012

Ha! I saw that article too. Strange!

Karen Salemi

12:12 pm on Saturday, September 29, 2012

Great writing, Samantha! Reading it was an unexpected delight in my morning routine. I can relate to your love of laundry. There is something deeply satisfying about many household chores. I actually like cleaning my house but please don't tell my family. :)

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Samantha McGarry

4:41 pm on Saturday, September 29, 2012

Your secret is safe with me! Thanks for commenting Karen!

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Susan Petroni

12:13 pm on Saturday, September 29, 2012

@Samantha - as always love your writing!
And on this dreary rainy day, that's exactly what I am doing this morning/afternoon but laundry!

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Samantha McGarry

4:41 pm on Saturday, September 29, 2012

It's a perfect day for it. As it happens, I went out to my Zumba class and came home to find that my husband had folded ALL the laundry!

Ingrid Peschke

1:45 pm on Saturday, September 29, 2012

Loved this! I have laundry waiting and if it wasn't in the basement I might be more inclined to get started. I love it when it's all folded and put away...folding is by far my favorite part.

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Dave Lenane

2:03 pm on Saturday, September 29, 2012

I dont mind laundry...but I hate the lint screen in the dryer. Seriously, I cant even touch the stuff! LOL. But it works out at our house because the wife hates those fabric softener sheets. She refuses to take them out of the dryer, so that's my job. Maybe we should just get a clothesline?

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Samantha McGarry

4:41 pm on Saturday, September 29, 2012

Did you ever see that segment on CBS Sunday Morning about a woman who creates art specifically out of drier lint ....?

Kirsten Vandijk

6:34 pm on Saturday, September 29, 2012

Okay, here is my secret to share. As soon as my two sons showed interest in the laundry machines and wanted to "help" I taught them how to operate the machines. They were less than ten years old and here is the catch: I haven't done their laundry since. Sure, there were the occasional pink whites loads that were created, but I have not had to deal with the boys laundry for over a decade. We all do our own individual laundry when needed. Sounds insane but while the boys may need to learn how to iron they certainly will not need Mom to do what they have been taught at an early age how to do themselves. I've lived smelly sock free for over a decade!

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Kristen Nason

9:30 pm on Saturday, September 29, 2012

Kirsten, I'm with you! I taught my son how to do his laundry when he was about 13 and my daughter will be learning this skill in a few years. My husband also does his share, but for some reason, I am the only one that knows how to fold the towels so they fit in the closet.

Beth Follett Last

8:50 pm on Saturday, September 29, 2012

Oh my... I found myself nodding as I was reading this post. Yes, yes and yes! My folding time is after everyone goes to bed - I get the tv to myself and no one will offer to "help" me. I then know where everything is when I inevitably get the question "Where is my favorite (insert any article of clothing here)". Clean clothes, folded nicely - there is a visable sense of accomplishment in this task - one that cannot be undone in minutes (such as the thankless task of cleaning the playroom) by my almost 6 yr old, 4 yr old and 2 month old. I completely get it! :)

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Samantha McGarry

11:51 pm on Saturday, September 29, 2012

Beth, we must have been separated at birth ...

Amy Schwartzberg

9:47 pm on Saturday, September 29, 2012

Yes, Samantha I do enjoy doing laundry. It is therapeutic and when you are done there is proof of your efforts. I also like it folded a certain way, certain items hung dry and ironed. Yep -- a little OCD.

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Dave Lenane

11:40 am on Sunday, September 30, 2012

100% with you Amy. I have OCD about my clothes being folded too!

Sherry M

11:51 pm on Saturday, September 29, 2012

100% with you all of the way! It's instant gratification...dirty clothes to clean clothes!

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Sonnie

5:13 pm on Monday, October 1, 2012

I should be doing laundry. Im at a break as we speak. lol.
Actually, I can not say I love doing laundry or not- its part of a daily job! I have one question, its the socks. With a family of 5, how the heck to be more organized with those socks. That is more time consuming than any other pieces of the laundry.

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Karen Salemi

9:25 pm on Monday, October 1, 2012

Sonnie, for me the secret to enjoying laundry is to avoid sorting. I did separate loads of laundry for each of my kids. They had enough clothing that I could wait 10 days or so to do a large load for each of them. I wash my husband's clothes together with mine but only because it's easy to tell whose is whose. If you really hate sorting socks you could also give each child their own lingerie bag (labeled with their names) to put their socks in. Then you know whose is whose. Hope this helps.

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Samantha McGarry

10:56 am on Tuesday, October 2, 2012

My solution for socks is I buy my kids those packs of 8 or 12 socks that are identical! That way the odds of matching socks are higher. It's not a perfect science as our dog tends to steal socks and bury them but at least it increases the chances of the remaining socks matching!

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Benjamin Gladden

1:23 pm on Wednesday, October 3, 2012

Samantha - as a full-time dad, I am with you!!! I make the same piles. While my wife works full-time, I'm with the kids full-time and working part-time. Laundry is like a little retreat for me - an area where I'm in total control! Until very recently, I never let anyone help me with the laundry - because they'd do all wrong. But my new part-time work as forced me to bight my lip and watch as someone else incorrectly folds some of the laundry...

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Sean O'Donnell

12:12 pm on Wednesday, October 10, 2012

Samantha, do you by any chance want another child? I'm 23 years old living in an apartment and I hate doing laundry.

I love reading your posts, you always put a fresh face on the daily chores.

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